How do I get students to listen to advice?
We all want to help kids do the right thing. But a roundabout path can be better than a direct one. Here鈥檚 something I wrote about the topic for as a :
Sometimes, giving advice to my daughters feels like shouting into the wind.
Did you know that you鈥檇 be able to concentrate better if you got more sleep?
If you put your keys in the same place every day, you鈥檇 be less likely to lose them!
Try making a to-do list at the start of the weekend. It will help you manage your time.
Shouting into the wind is, of course, part of the job description for parents, teachers, and anyone else who genuinely cares for the well-being of young people. After all, there are some things we know that they don鈥檛.
But very often, the advice we鈥檙e dispensing is nothing new. My daughters have already been told countless times鈥攂y me, their dad, and who knows who else鈥攖hat they should go to bed earlier, establish routines to stay organized, and plan ahead.
In other words, many young people know what鈥檚 best, yet fail to act accordingly.
Several years ago, after working by my side on many failed interventions, a brilliant graduate student named Lauren Eskreis-Winkler came up with an entirely different idea: 鈥淲hat if, instead of telling kids what to do, we asked them to give advice to younger students?鈥�
Lauren soon set to work on interventions that were much simpler than anything we鈥檇 done before. When young people are gently prompted to give advice to others, their own motivation and confidence improve.
In one , Lauren and her collaborators found that high school students who were asked to give younger peers advice on study strategies and other ways to succeed academically鈥攁n activity that took only eight minutes鈥攊mproved their own report card grades that marking period.
顿辞苍鈥檛 underestimate the power of kids mentoring kids. Young people are wiser than we think, and both sides may benefit.
Do ask the young people in your life to give advice to others: 鈥淵our sister is a little stressed out about final exams. What can she do to manage that?鈥� 鈥淚 know some people feel worse about themselves after scrolling through their Instagram feed. What do you think they should do to feel better?鈥� In other words, instead of shouting into the wind, listen.
