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We Need to Recalibrate the Parent-Teacher Relationship

They should be partners, not enemies
By Rick Hess 鈥 August 14, 2023 2 min read
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As we embark on a new school year, it鈥檚 a timely moment to ask how we might strengthen the relationship between parents and teachers. And it鈥檚 about time. During the past few years, lackluster remote learning, extended school closures, and a window into classroom practice left millions of parents newly skeptical of their schools. At the same time, the experience of the pandemic taught millions of parents that teaching was tougher and more exhausting than they鈥檇 ever realized.

Baltimore public schools CEO Sonja Santelises put it well in the thoughtful essay she penned for Education Week, observing, 鈥淚 have been struck by the number of principals telling me about staff who have said they were wrong about this parent or that grandmother, now seen more as a vital ally rather than an unwanted adversary.鈥 She continued, 鈥淣o longer can we dust off the welcome mats for back-to-school nights and parent-teacher conferences and then swiftly roll them back up, shooing parents away and telling them, 鈥楾rust us.鈥 We are now guests in their homes.鈥

The data suggest that parental frustrations aren鈥檛 without cause. About half of teachers report that they devote less than an hour a week to communicating with parents, guardians, and the community. Just of teachers spend more than three hours a week doing so.

Today, after several years of culture clashes over school closures, masking, vaccine mandates, critical race theory, gender identity, and more, it鈥檚 easy to take sides for or against parental influence. If we back away from the politics though, almost every educator will tell you that schooling is, by its very nature, a partnership between parents and teachers.

So, the real question is, what should that partnership look like?

Teachers must be professionally capable, committed to educating every child, and willing to seek ways to open a student鈥檚 heart and mind. By the same token, the job of parents and guardians is to send children to school who are responsible and ready to learn. This means getting their kid to school on time, making sure they do their homework, teaching them to respect their peers, and much else.

Now, parents, like teachers, are frequently overworked and overburdened. It can be exhausting to do these things every day. I get it. That鈥檚 why it鈥檚 vital to cultivate the partnership.

I find it useful to ask what it would mean if the parent-teacher relationship looked more like the parent-pediatrician relationship. What would that entail? Would it be good for students, 糖心动漫vlog, and parents?

Consider the responsibilities of the teacher before and after the interaction, as compared to a pediatrician. And consider a parent鈥檚 duties in both scenarios. Pondering this usually surfaces the fact that parents are more likely to defer to a pediatrician, following their instructions.

If a pediatrician says, 鈥淕et this prescription filled,鈥 parents are pretty likely to do so; if a teacher says, 鈥淏lake needs to read every night,鈥 things grow less certain. And that鈥檚 a problem.

As students continue to grapple with the learning loss, emotional trauma, and social isolation of the pandemic era, both parents and 糖心动漫vlog need to help.

Striking that deal requires 糖心动漫vlog to see parents as partners. That means keeping parents apprised of what鈥檚 happening in school and asking how things are going at home. It means making it easy for parents to see what鈥檚 being taught. It means valuing parental concerns. And it also means being clear about what parents, in turn, need to do.

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